Premature ejaculation – Lingam Massage – Male Masseur for Men
Sexual healing for men is part of the Tantric path; a comprehensive method that combines the magic of Kung Fu Tantra ancestral knowledge about life and sexuality, in particular male sexuality. Tantric massage (sensitive massage for men), meditation, Lingam massage, Ayurvedic medicine and pranayamas (breathing exercises) are the main practices of Tantra for men. Each and every one of these tools is a very effective way to improve both your physical and mental health.
The main sexual disorders amongst men are premature ejaculation, anorgasmia and erectile dysfunction. Men do have other sexual dysfunctions, but here we will focus on these three.
Premature ejaculation refers to lack of control over the ejaculatory reflex. It is a sexual problem that affects almost 75% of men at some point in their sexual life, either sporadically or constantly. In the most severe cases, the man can ejaculate before penetrating his partner, or a few seconds after penetration.
Various studies by sexologists such as Masters & Johnson or Alfred Kinsey already reached clear conclusions regarding male, female and couple sexuality in the mid-twentieth century. In general, their investigations showed that between 50% and 75% of men suffer an ejaculation within two minutes of penetration. This high percentage affects the sexual relationships of many couples. Premature ejaculation causes a lot of frustration and many relationship problems; women feel dissatisfied and frustrated and men suffer the anxiety of not being able to satisfy their partner and not knowing how to control their ejaculation.
Types of premature ejaculation:
Primary premature ejaculation: when it has been always been a problem throughout a man’s sex life
Secondary premature ejaculation: when it occurs during a particular period of a man’s sex life, after puberty
Causes of premature ejaculation
The causes may be of organic or psychological origin, or a combination of both.
Organic causes (the least common): urogenital infections of the urethra and prostate, neurological disorders, vascular disorders, the use of drugs (antidepressants, stimulants, antihypertensives and anti-flu drugs containing pseudoephedrine) degenerative diseases, hormonal imbalances and diseases that alter the reflex mechanisms of ejaculation. Some psychiatric illnesses such as bipolar disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder can also cause sexual dysfunction.
Psychological and environmental causes (the most common): stress, anxiety, nervousness, or emotional guilt, sadness, anguish, etc. There is a strong relation between our emotional well-being and a satisfying sex life.
Treatment for premature ejaculation
Nowadays there are medications for sexual disorders that claim to be very effective, but the reality is that none of them have proven to be highly effective, and some have unhealthy side effects.
Sexologists prescribe very basic exercises to increase ejaculatory control, although they do not tend to go beyond masturbation and prolonging the duration of the patient’s erections. The ‘Stop and Continue’ technique is also often used, a method that speaks for itself.
Tantra does not treat this problem like a disease or a disorder, although it is therapeutic in many aspects beyond the purely sexual. Sexual healing for men is the result of sadhana (Tantric practice), which varies for each individual and covers several different aspects.
Meditation, pranayamas, sexual yoga and tantric massage are the main practices for any man who wants to study Tantra to learn how to effectively control his ejaculation and last for longer during penetrative sexual relations.
Little by little basic motivation is no longer a problem; the man is ready to evolve and deepen his knowledge of tantric sex.
Erectile dysfunction is another sexual disorder that greatly concerns men. ED is the inability to get an erection or maintain it for long enough to maintain penetration during sexual relations. There are no clear statistics showing the percentage of men that suffer from problems with erections, but the figure is high and it is a fact that demand for Viagra increases every year.
Sexual impotence or ED
Colloquially, the term ‘sexual impotence’ is used, but specialists in modern sexology prefer the term ‘erectile dysfunction’ or ED.
Causes of erectile dysfunction
There are three causes that can occur separately or combined:
Organic (of physical origin): genitourinary, urological (congenital lesions of the penis), endocrine (diabetes), vascular (arteriosclerosis), infectious, neurological (brain lesions, spinal cord injuries) or pharmacological as a result of consuming certain substances: alcohol, tobacco, some medications or illegal substances (in 15% of the cases).
Psychological (emotional factors): fears, anxiety, guilt, premature ejaculation …, or , insecurity, emotional instability, etc.
Traumatic: traumas in the pelvic area.
Ageing is not a determining factor for ED, although over the years your health can deteriorate (circulatory problems, nervous system connection, etc.) which causes an increase in the consumption of pharmaceutical drugs. Taken together, these factors lead to more cases of sexual impotence in older people.
Treatment for erectile dysfunction
Pharmaceutical drugs: there are several drugs on the market that treat erectile dysfunction. Viagra (Sildenafil), Cialis (Tadalafil), Levitra (Vardenafil), or hormones (Bromocriptine), all of produce a range of side effects. Sometimes it is enough to change or reduce the medications that may be causing ED, such as antidepressants, diuretics and beta-blockers.
Surgery: vascular surgery, bypass surgery, venous ligation or penile implants. All of these methods involve surgery in an operating theatre and do not guarantee an improvement in getting and maintaining erections.
Psychological treatment: most psychotherapies for erectile problems are part of couple therapy.
Tantra for men: tantric therapy consists of a sadhana (a discipline undertaken in the pursuit of a goal) guided by a master. The practices consist of various types of meditation, breathing exercises (pranayamas), sexual yoga and tantric massage, which may include Lingam massage. These are sadhana for men who wish to improve their erections when they begin studying Tantra.
Anorgasmia in men is a topic that is rarely talked about, female anorgasmia is usually discussed more. Lack of awareness about this sexual problem is due to confusion between ejaculation and orgasm. They are two quite different physiological processes, but the vast majority of men do not distinguish between them. However, there are many men who do not feel pleasure during sex, or do not climax, although they do often ejaculate at the end of intercourse.
Types of anorgasmia in men
Anorgasmia with ejaculation: when a man undergoes a phase of sexual excitement and ends up ejaculating, but does not however experience any physical or mental pleasure.
Anorgasmia without climaxing: when a man has sexual relations, with or without penetration, but cannot ejaculate for lack of pleasure after what is considered to be an appropriate length of time. In many cases this is due to boredom or frustration.
Causes of anorgasmia in men
The causes of anorgasmia in men can be physical or mental:
Physical: genetic malformations, diabetes, spinal cord injuries, drugs.
Mental: stress, anxiety, depression, couple problems, previous traumas, fears.
Treatment for male anorgasmia
Once any physiological causes have been ruled out, male anorgasmia can be treated by using a sadhana that centres on releasing the fears and emotional blocks that prevent men from feeling pleasure and connecting with life. Little by little, the man’s level of sensitivity develops, both with his own body and with a partner; pleasurable sexuality which is both physically and mentally satisfying.
This article touches on three sexual dysfunctions, as defined by modern psychology and Tantra, to give you a broad idea. However, these are topics that require more profound examination and in later articles these issues will be discussed in greater depth.
To conclude, keep in mind that Tantra does not deem these problems to be diseases. Instead, Tantra helps you to deepen your self-knowledge and to rid yourself of any restrictive fears or pre-programming that you may have. It also gives you tools to help improve your sexuality.